All children need to feel safe, loved, protected, secure and given encouragement and this is the same for adults. But sometimes this is not given and when children experience abuse they often take into adulthood patterns and unresolved emotions from the past. This can then have an effect on the adult relationships we have and how we feel about ourselves.
You may try to forget about the past, but you still find that it haunts you, with nightmares or flashbacks. You may find it difficult to form close relationships without getting hurt again, or you may be in an abusive relationship now as an adult and are unsure what to do or where to turn.
How can counselling help?
Counselling cannot take away the past but it can help you identify and resolve issues that are causing you difficulties. It allows you the opportunity to work on emotions and behaviours with a counsellor who will not judge, but value you and who you are. Often counselling allows you to connect to your inner child and start a process of inner healing. In doing this you may get a better understanding of who was responsible and you may let go of the strong feelings you have and aim for self-change.