Bereavement is a universal experience and we all in our lifetime experience the death of loved ones. Grief is a normal reaction to significant loss and the purpose is to enable us, over a period of time, to come to terms with what has happened and to bring us back to our life. Grief for those we love is an act of completion on their behalf. Through our grief we dedicate a part of our life to completing their life purposes.
It is important to see grieving as something you do, it is a process through which you will experience a whole range of emotions but also it can include bodily changes (trouble sleeping, tiredness, not eating) and behavioural changes (keeping busy, using drugs to cope). You may feel that you are in a cycle going round and round and one day coming to terms with how you feel and the next back at the start.
However it is not in bereavement alone that we experience loss; loss can be far more encompassing. It can be by leaving and by being left, by changing and letting go and moving on, loss of job, lifestyle, home and many others.
How can counselling help?
Counselling can help by allowing you to have time to yourself to explore and talk about the confusing overwhelming emotions. You may be frightened of your feelings and so being with someone who accepts you for who you are and understands can be both powerful and healing. Counselling allows you to make sense and work through your grief in a natural healthy way.